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4 Intimate Things New Moms are Too Embarrassed to Talk About

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As you embark on the incredible journey of motherhood, it’s not just the joy of cradling your newborn that accompanies you.

There’s also a silent companion that often goes unspoken – the physical changes and challenges your body endures after childbirth.

It’s a time of profound transformation, where your body tells a story of strength, resilience, and sometimes, vulnerability.

You might find yourself amidst the whirlwind of caring for your little one, feeling alone in your experiences, hesitant to voice out the intimate changes you’re facing.

Whether it’s a laugh that leads to an unexpected leak or a sense of discomfort that makes you second-guess joining the family for a walk, these are the realities many new moms face, yet they seldom make it to our conversations.

At Legacy Physical Therapy, we understand the delicate nature of these postpartum challenges.

We’re here to assure you that your experiences, while deeply personal, are not unique to you. You’re not alone, and more importantly, there’s help and hope.

Understanding Postpartum: Normalizing the Stress of New Motherhood

The postpartum period is often depicted as a blissful time, but the reality can be quite different.

It’s normal for new moms to feel stressed, overwhelmed, and even anxious as they adjust to the monumental changes in their lives.

This stress isn’t just emotional; it manifests physically too.

The causes are multifaceted – hormonal fluctuations, physical recovery from childbirth, sleep deprivation, and the pressure to instantly bond and be the perfect mother.

These factors can create a cocktail of emotions and physical sensations that are challenging to navigate.

But here’s what’s important to remember: these feelings and experiences are normal.

They don’t diminish the incredible job you’re doing as a new mom. Recognizing and accepting these changes as a natural part of the postpartum journey is the first step towards healing and recovery.

Understanding Postpartum: Normalizing the Stress of New Motherhood

Bladder Leakage

Many women develop stress incontinence after childbirth, where they leak urine when they cough, sneeze, laugh, run, and jump.

This is often because the pelvic floor muscles just got stretched out and weakened from the delivery.

To combat stress incontinence, try gentle Kegel exercises to help strengthen pelvic floor muscles.

Try to avoid putting excessive stress on the pelvic floor when lifting your new babies.

You can prevent straining the pelvic floor muscles by exhaling upon exertion. Both of these things can help you to get rid of bladder leakage faster if you’re experiencing it postpartum or hopefully prevent you from experiencing it at all.

But, if you are having issues with bladder leakage, lasting more than six to eight weeks postpartum, you do want to talk to your healthcare provider about it because there are things you can do, such as working with the pelvic physical therapist, to make sure that your pelvic floor muscles are doing what they need to be doing

Flatulence and Queefing

It’s completely normal to lose temporary control of gas when the pudendal nerve has been damaged or compressed as a result of the baby passing through the vaginal canal.

When this happens the pelvic floor muscles can become weak and are not strong enough to control passing gas. In a more extreme case, women may experience loss of fecal matter as well.

After childbirth, the vaginal canal is stretched out and it can take a while to resume its normal or almost normal size again.

As a result, new moms may end up having episodes of queefing. Queefing is a term that some people may be familiar with, but others may not.

Another way to think of it is a vaginal fart.

As we move air can get trapped in the canal and then as we move again, it can get released and we can get that vaginal fart.

Fortunately, lack of gas control, and/or queefing should resolve within a month or two. It can take longer in lactating women because they are still under the influence of hormones that cause connective tissue to loosen up. If not, let your doctor know.

You can also try pelvic floor strengthening exercises, listed above.

Another suggestion is to avoid placing too much stress on the pelvic floor muscles, with activities such as lifting heavy or returning to high-impact exercises.

Diminished Sex Drive

Not having the urge to have sex can happen for a couple of reasons.

First of all, there are tons of hormonal changes a woman has to deal with postpartum.

It can take up to three months after childbirth for your hormones to rebalance and even longer if you’re breastfeeding.

Specifically, the hormones produced in lactating mamas suppress estrogen and testosterone and this lowers desire and can cause vaginal dryness.

Pain can be another causative factor. Women often feel pain with intercourse after delivery as a result of scar tissue issues or pelvic floor muscle dysfunction.

Scars from healing tears or episiotomies can be very painful if they are not stretching and moving well.

Even if you didn’t have a vaginal delivery, the scar tissue from your C-section scar could also be pulling and causing some pain and issues.

It also can be related to tension and pulling on the muscles and the muscles may actually tense up because of that. They may be in a spasms position and this could be from the delivery itself because birth can be traumatic.

Sometimes the muscles need a little bit of help to learn how to move better and be able to stretch and give to make intercourse more comfortable.

Pelvic Pressure

We hear a lot of new moms saying their pelvis just feels heavy, and they’re feeling a lot of pressure.

They may notice a bulge in the vaginal canal if they look down there.

Oftentimes, this is worse as the day goes on or worse if they are more active or are doing more lifting.

The vaginal canal gets very stretched out with delivery and it can take a little bit to tone the canal back up.

We can have some increased laxity, or give, in the walls and it can lead to something called pelvic organ prolapse where some of the pelvic organs like the bladder, or the rectum, or even the uterus are tipping into or coming down into the vaginal canal. Sometimes this does take a little bit to heal. Sometimes there needs to be surgical options to heal.

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Reclaiming Control: Your Invitation to a Free Postpartum Pelvic Health Assessment

At Legacy Physical Therapy, we are committed to supporting new mothers through the often unspoken challenges of postpartum recovery. We understand that this period can bring a mix of joy and physical discomfort, and we’re here to help you navigate it with confidence and care.

This month, we’re excited to offer a FREE Postpartum Pelvic Health Assessment.

This service is our way of contributing to your postpartum journey, ensuring that your time with your new baby is cherished, free from the concerns of pelvic health issues.

If you’re uncertain about whether this assessment is right for you, or if you’re wondering if your postpartum experiences are normal, we’re here to provide clarity and support. It’s the perfect time to take a step towards understanding and improving your pelvic health.

We understand that every mother’s experience is unique, which is why we offer the option to consult with a physical therapist over the phone.

Our team is ready to listen to your concerns, understand your individual situation, and develop a personalized plan tailored to your specific postpartum needs.

Reach out to us at Legacy Physical Therapy at (636) 225-3649. Let us be your guide to a more comfortable and joyful postpartum experience.

Embrace your postpartum journey with confidence,

Brooke Kasiliak

Your Trusted Physical Therapist

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